Loving Your Partner

In an earlier post, i spoke about what is love. Love is what brings two people together and its is vital for the success of a marriage or relationship. Loving your partner is not just about saying " i love you:", it's about doing the things to make that person feel loved. Saying "i love you' means nothing if you can't show it. There are many things that one can do to say "i love you" without really having to say i love you, if you know what i mean.

 Ten Ways to Show Your Love

Expressing your love does not require spending a lot of money or doing something fancy all the time. The simple things you do for someone is sufficient enough to show them your love for them. Following below are ten ways you can show your love towards your spouse or partner.


1) Spending Quality Time Together: Set aside time to spend with the one you love. 

2) Be Affectionate- all marriages and relationships need that emotional safety and acceptance. Kisses and hugs from your spouse or your partner is the sweetest thing out.

3) Flowers- Once in a while you can send flowers to your partner's workplace. Now i know some of you may be thinking this comment is directed to the guys. But who says a woman can't send flowers for a guy.

4) Date Nights- i know most married couples barely have date nights, but date nights are fun. Set aside at least a few days in the month where you both can go out and have some fun.

5) Share Your Feelings- sharing your feelings and your thoughts with your partner reassures them they are needed by you.

6) Breakfast in Bed- Surprise your loved one with breakfast in bed.

7) Chores- Offer to do their share of the chores ever so often, especially the ones they hate doing.

8) Candle Light Dinner- surprise your other half with a candle light dinner prepared with their favorite dishes.

9)  Remind them that you love them- yes it is important to show them you love them, but its nice to hear it ever so often.

10) Introduce them- Introduce your partner to the people in your life like your coworkers, family and friends. Show them you are proud to have them stand by your side and ensure they feel welcomed.

The Importance of Trust in a Marriage

Marriage and Trust 

 

 What is trust? Trust develops when someone strongly believes in something or someone no matter what anyone says. It is one of the key ingredients that protects and holds a marriage together, without it marriages are bound to face problems. A marriage lacking trust is good as a failed one. Remember if you don't trust someone how can you possibly display affection towards them. A relationship without trust would suffer from hurt, anger, disloyalty, cheating, abuse and many more. Trust is knowing that your future is in safe hands with the one that you have chosen to commit to. Its knowing that you are loved and that person would not dare do anything to hurt you.

Why do People Lose Trust?

 

Trust is lost when someone betrays another person. It becomes difficult to trust a person when they have disappointed you, especially when you expected better from them. Not only can one lose trust when someone lies, but trust can also be broken through disloyalty, deceit, destructive habits, selfishness and addiction. Once this trust is broken, it becomes very difficult to rebuild it. 

Don't betray the one you Love

 

Now many relationships suffer from trust issues and it is understandable judging from the things that are taking place in today's society. If your love one breaks your trust, it doesn't mean they don't love you, so don't run at the first chance you get. People often make mistakes when they can not differentiate from right and wrong, good or bad. So this is your opportunity to guide them and show them the right part. Do not try to get even or betray their trust, because then you will be no better than them. But folks try not to betray the trust of the one you love, it is the most unbearable and heart wrenching feeling to see the one you love walk out your life. Just remember it takes a lifetime to develop trust but seconds to shatter it.

Is your Marriage Sex Deprived?

SEX & MARRIAGE

  

We are all adults here, and we all know what sex is. Sex is the act of engaging in physical intercourse with the opposite sex, and in some cases the same sex. But how important is sex in a marriage? Can a sex deprived marriage be the cause for a marriage to fail? Well I believe a marriage lacking that intimate connection can ultimately fail. Not only would couples drift apart from each other but a marriage lacking sex can lead to conflict and extramarital affairs. It is obvious if a marriage is lacking sex, your partner can result to searching for that connection on the outside, no one wants this but it does happen.

WHY DO MARRIAGES LACK SEX?

Are you encountering problems in your marriage because of sex? Are you dissatisfied with your sex life with your spouse? Well you're not alone, there are many reasons why married couples encounter these problems. Following below are a few reasons why marriages lack sex.

1) Conflict and Abuse- Continuous conflict, abuse and misunderstandings amongst married couples can lead to dissatisfaction in their sex life.

2) Lack of Trust- Marriages lacking trust will ultimately suffer both on an emotional and physical level. Any spouse who mistrusts their other half will not desire to be with him or her intimately as they would fear that they may be cheating.

3)Too much Commitments- How can this affect your sex life? Well when you have too much responsibilities, you often get engrossed and tired trying to accomplish these, from going to work and running behind the kids. You often find yourself "too tired" for anything else and avoid being with your spouse in an intimate sense.



4) Unattractive Spouse- now this may sound shallow and beauty is about whats on the inside and not the outside. But face it, if you have yourself looking unattractive, over weight and unappealing, your spouse may not find you desirable.

THE IMPORTANCE OF SEX IN A MARRIAGE

Is sex important in a marriage? The answer is yes and I am positive you all would agree. It is one of the most vital aspect in a marriage and is the only thing you share with your husband and wife alone, unless you sharing it with someone else other than your spouse which is a big no no. Couples lacking sex in their married lives can be considered none other than roommates. Sex is important as it adds to your relationship a profound connection between each other filled with desire and passion. It brings couples closer and strengthens their relationship both on an emotional and physical level. 

TIPS FOR MARRIED COUPLES

Are you experiencing problems in your sex life? Well here a a few tips that can help improve your intimate life with your spouse.

1) Spice it Up- You can try something different, don't do the same old boring thing all the time. Perhaps you can try role play or go to a nice romantic resort for the weekend. Do something that can add zest to your relationship.

2) Accessorize- This one is for the ladies, you can tantalize your husband by accessorizing with lingerie and jewelry.

3) Keep fit- this is for both husband and wife. Exercising is not only beneficial for your health but it helps keep your body in shape. This is vital as it helps you look attractive and gain the body your spouse can't have enough of.

4) Don't be Lazy- if your spouse wants sex, give it to them cause you wouldn't want them looking for it on the outside.

5) Share your thoughts- if there is something you like or dislike share it with your spouse. Effective communication inside and outside the bedroom is vital for a healthy marriage.

6) Be romantic- Always try to be romantic and loving towards your spouse, this helps increase that intimate connection you share with each other.

Hope you enjoyed reading this post. If i missed anything please feel free to share in the comment box below.

The Impact Social Networking has on Your Marriage

What is Social Networking?

 We all know what social networking is, we use almost everyday our lives. Social networking has become such an integrated aspect of our lives, we use it to interact with people all around the world, both on a personal and professional basis. And as technology continuously advances, it becomes difficult to stay away from it, its easily accessible in our phones, our television sets, our laptops even our watches, amazing isn't it? But for those who don't know what it is, lets just define it for their sakes. Social networking can be defined as a "social platform" service whereby people build social relations among people who share common interests, activities, photos, real life etc. Compared to a couple years ago, social networking as we know it today has made interaction with the outside world so much simpler. But whilst social networking can prove beneficial to us it can also create obstacles for some, especially married couples. 

How can social networking affect your marriage?

The use of social sites and platforms have proven to bring people closer together, but believe it or not it has also proven to drift many people apart. Once used properly, it shouldn't cause any harm but over using it can proven disastrous for relationships. Can the use of social networking really cause problems for a married couple? Well my friends, the answer is yes. There is nothing wrong in using social sites to keep in contact with your loved ones and meet new friends but one has to know their limits. Over abuse of these sites can create problems in your marriage such as conflict, trust issues etc. Sitting hours behind the computer or on your phone engaging yourself in conversations with friends and family can make your spouse feel neglected and hurt. It can become the cause for conflict in your marriage and make your spouse even doubt your intentions.

Meeting new friends who share common goals and interests is nice. It's nice to have someone to talk about the things we like, but engaging in conversations especially with the opposite sex can get out of control.When you engage in conversations with the opposite sex, especially with someone who is not related to you, it can eventually lead to intimate conversations and emotional attachments without you even noticing it. And before you even realize it, you are sharing your life stories with this person more than your own spouse. Engaging in such conversations can lead to emotional attachments which can prove to cloud your judgment. You may even agree to start video chatting, talking on the phone etc.and before you know it, you're cheating and you eventually drift away from the one you truly love.

I'm not saying this happens with everyone, but trust me it does happen. Now the person who is over using the social sites may not necessarily be the one doing anything wrong, but does your wife or husband know this. They may believe that you are and it can create conflict as i mentioned before. It can also push your neglected spouse to search for the attention on the the outside. So my friends please learn to use these sites appropriately. A piece of advice for all married couples, set some boundaries when it comes to social networking. Don't let the negative effects of it hamper your relationship.