The Impact Social Networking has on Your Marriage

What is Social Networking?

 We all know what social networking is, we use almost everyday our lives. Social networking has become such an integrated aspect of our lives, we use it to interact with people all around the world, both on a personal and professional basis. And as technology continuously advances, it becomes difficult to stay away from it, its easily accessible in our phones, our television sets, our laptops even our watches, amazing isn't it? But for those who don't know what it is, lets just define it for their sakes. Social networking can be defined as a "social platform" service whereby people build social relations among people who share common interests, activities, photos, real life etc. Compared to a couple years ago, social networking as we know it today has made interaction with the outside world so much simpler. But whilst social networking can prove beneficial to us it can also create obstacles for some, especially married couples. 

How can social networking affect your marriage?

The use of social sites and platforms have proven to bring people closer together, but believe it or not it has also proven to drift many people apart. Once used properly, it shouldn't cause any harm but over using it can proven disastrous for relationships. Can the use of social networking really cause problems for a married couple? Well my friends, the answer is yes. There is nothing wrong in using social sites to keep in contact with your loved ones and meet new friends but one has to know their limits. Over abuse of these sites can create problems in your marriage such as conflict, trust issues etc. Sitting hours behind the computer or on your phone engaging yourself in conversations with friends and family can make your spouse feel neglected and hurt. It can become the cause for conflict in your marriage and make your spouse even doubt your intentions.

Meeting new friends who share common goals and interests is nice. It's nice to have someone to talk about the things we like, but engaging in conversations especially with the opposite sex can get out of control.When you engage in conversations with the opposite sex, especially with someone who is not related to you, it can eventually lead to intimate conversations and emotional attachments without you even noticing it. And before you even realize it, you are sharing your life stories with this person more than your own spouse. Engaging in such conversations can lead to emotional attachments which can prove to cloud your judgment. You may even agree to start video chatting, talking on the phone etc.and before you know it, you're cheating and you eventually drift away from the one you truly love.

I'm not saying this happens with everyone, but trust me it does happen. Now the person who is over using the social sites may not necessarily be the one doing anything wrong, but does your wife or husband know this. They may believe that you are and it can create conflict as i mentioned before. It can also push your neglected spouse to search for the attention on the the outside. So my friends please learn to use these sites appropriately. A piece of advice for all married couples, set some boundaries when it comes to social networking. Don't let the negative effects of it hamper your relationship.

  

Honouring Your Wedding Vows

The Vow

The exchange of wedding vows is an essential part of a wedding ritual. It is a very romantic moment and often the ideal place to convey your feelings towards your future spouse in the presence of your dear ones. Finding the right words to say and writing the perfect vows takes time and effort. It appears harder than it seems, but the true challenge comes after the big day has gone, when everything is back to normal and your lives have begun as one. Can you truly honor your wedding vows?

 The Challenge 

 

As time flashes before us, it can be seen in many homes the importance of honoring wedding vows is disappearing. But why is this happening? Couples are fighting, cheating, getting divorced etc, but why are couples unable to truly honor their vows? There are various reasons why this may happen, which I cannot really say for sure. But my guess is, couples nowadays have become so engrossed in their own lives they may have forgotten the significance of these vows. I know it must be very difficult to truly honor these vows, with a job, kids, bills, other commitments etc, but you have to try. If you fail to try, your marriage would become a binding contract where you both agree to do things for each other, like the wife will agree to cook and take care of the household activities whilst the husband will agree to see about the garden etc. This is not how it suppose to be but shockingly this is what is taking place in today's society. The importance of honoring your wedding vows is crucial to the survival of your marriage and the growth of a healthy family.  Don’t let your vows become part of a contract, make it a part of your daily routine and see how it would change your lives for the better. Don't do something because you have to, do it because you want to.

The Wedding Proposal

The Proposal 

The wedding proposal, its that one event of our lives that we hope to be one of the most perfect and memorable days that we would experience. Its where one proposes and asks for another person's hand in "marriage". Usually we would hope this is something that would only occur once in our lives. Its that one day that marks the beginning of a new chapter in our lives. The wedding proposal marks the initiation of an engagement between two people, providing the person who is being proposed to "Accepts". Traditionally, the guy is the one that usually asks for the girl's hand in marriage, but as time progresses we can see a shift in traditions. Can you believe, women have now started doing the "proposing". Whilst this is very rare and i don't see anything wrong in it, i still prefer being a little old school when it comes to things like this.  

  The Perfect Proposal

 Racking your brains on how to propose to the women you love or the guy you love. Well rack no further. Below i have provided the basics of a romantic and perfect proposal. Before making a decision, take into consideration the type of person your partner to be. Think about what the person likes, for example if your partner is not comfortable in crowded places, proposing in a restaurant in front of a lot people might be a bad idea. You may consider proposing in a secluded place where your fiance to be, might feel more comfortable. 

 Romantic Proposals

This is one of the most popular choices of wedding proposals where you can pour your heart out to your partner. Now most romantic proposals are usually done in a similar manner, to make yours special, ensure you make it as unique as possible and add a few extra personalized touches. Some of the basics in creating the most romantic wedding proposal are as follows:

1) Choose a favorite place- ensure the place you choose has a significance to both of you. If you're choosing a restaurant, you can have someone decorate the place to accommodate the event with candles and flowers. 

2) Music- if you can afford, you can have musicians serenade your wife or husband to be, singing one of your favorite songs. If not, ensure you have one of your favorite songs playing when you do decide to go on your knees. 

3) Champagne or Wine- Order a bottle of the finest champagne to celebrate the occasion.

4) Flowers- Flowers is a must for such an occasion, preferably red roses which symbolizes love.

5) Desserts- You can include something sweet for such a joyous occasion.

6) The Ring- Don't forget the ring, what is a proposal without the ring? A ring may be a fine piece of jewelry, but when someone gives you a ring, they are giving away to you their life with utmost trust. They are giving you the opportunity to start life afresh with them. Make sure and get the perfect ring that would make your day most memorable, it doesn't have to be the most expensive ring, once you give it with all your heart that is all that should matter.

Whilst there are other ways of proposing such as hilarious ways, adventurous and spontaneous, i believe a romantic proposal is always the best way to go. The perfect wedding proposal, how would you do it?

 

LOVE

In Love

What is love?

 There are many kinds of love, but a love between a husband and wife is one of the most special bonds. Love has no boundaries, where there is love, there is life, and a relationship without any love is bound to suffer. Love never fails, its when you can do anything just to spend time with that one special person. Love is when you find that one person who you adore more than anything in this world. Its when that one person means the world to you and you being able to share your world with that person.

 It's about getting joy in doing something for the person you're with. It's about sacrifices, dedication and commitment. Love is when you blindly trust that person with your life and know that they wouldn't let any harm come to you. It's an amazing feeling to love someone unconditionally and have someone love you back in the same manner. This is the kind of love that married couples should share, selfless love. If everyone could love so deeply our world, our homes and our futures would be as bright as the sun. People could do anything in the name of love, so never make the mistake of pushing someone away who would love you forever.

How do you know it's love?

I know I love you because I can’t seem to stop caring,

I Know I love you because I’ve become lost in your beautiful memories.

I know I love you because I grieve for you when you’re away from me,

My life, my emotions, my actions have become revolved around you,

My heart is not in my control anymore.

I Know I love you because I can’t stop thinking of you,

Day and night you have taken over my thoughts,

I love your smile, I love your touch, I even love the way you smell,

All I know is I’m deeply in love with you.

And I wish to spend the rest of my life building a future with you.
That's how i know it's Love.

Why is having a smaller wedding ideal?

Smaller Weddings Are More Magical and Meaningful

Dream Wedding

I can't speak for the men out there, but as a woman i can relate. As little girls growing up we would dream about our wedding days. In the back of our minds, we already know what kind of cake we want, what type of dress we may wear, the type of ring we desire, the color decorations we plan on using etc. We envision our wedding day to be like a scene out of a fairy tale, where we would be dressed up like princesses and our prince will come take us away. We picture this day to be magical and splendid, with the finest of food and drinks and best musicians. But as reality hits us, we realize having the dream wedding doesn't necessarily mean having the biggest wedding of all times. It simply means being able to unite with the love of your life no matter how big or small the wedding is. Following are a few simple reasons why i believe smaller wedding is ideal.  

Reasons for a Smaller Wedding

 
 1) Guest List- Your Guest List would just compromise of the people who actually mean something to you and not a bunch of people you don't know. Your family and close friends are just the people you want to celebrate with as you take this step forward. Trust me know one wants to celebrate with people who are there to "maco" and enjoy the free food and drinks.

 2) Budget - Weddings nowadays costs such a fortune and by having a smaller wedding you can save a great amount of money. This can be set aside to start your life together by putting it into a savings, towards your honeymoon, future kids, house etc. So think about it folks, do you really want to spend a load of money that can be used for something valuable in the future.


3) Saves Time- Having a smaller wedding is economical and saves a lot of time. It's actually less stress as things would get done at a faster rate as compared to a larger wedding.

4) Less Compromise- Having a large wedding is any girl's dream but think about it, if you have a smaller wedding you would not have to compromise on the things your heart truly desires. For example instead of settling for a two layer cake because you have to cut back in cost to facilitate more guests, you would be able to have the cake of your dreams. Instead of settling for "channa and aloo" you can serve exquisite gourmet food for the people that actually matters. Basically what I am trying to say is you would be able to have all the things you want by having a smaller wedding.

5) Photos- I have seen instances where couples who have had lavish and huge weddings go through their wedding albums and see pictures of people they don't even know. Wife, "Darling, do you know who this lady is?", Husband "No Honey, I thought she was from your side". Having a smaller wedding is ideal, as the photographer would be able to capture the moments of those that actually matter.  


 Just remember your big day is not about showing off who can have the best wedding, or the best cake. It's not about wearing the most expensive dress or having the most expensive caterer. It's about celebrating your special day with the people you love and care about.

Wedding Tips To Help Make Your Day Perfect

Your Day Has Finally Arrived

Finally it’s that time of your life where you’re the one walking down the aisle. That day have finally arrived, its your day and you just want everything to be perfect and for nothing to go wrong. Just remember when planning your wedding take into consideration you would only celebrate this day once, unless you plan on renewing your vows. I’m not married, but I could just imagine when that day arrives for me, I would want that day to be absolutely perfect. But it’s insane to think that nothing will go wrong. Here are some last minute tips that can help make your day stress free and meaningful.

 1) Don't Stress out- Its your wedding and i can just imagine you want everything to be perfect but reality check we live in a world where people "mess up". So try not take on any additional stress, just let the little things slide.

2) Take Some Alone Time- its the one day in your life where all eyes would be focused on you. Its moments before the ceremony, your heart is racing and you feel as if you're sweating. Its the day that is going to change your life forever. What i suggest you do, is to take a few minutes for yourself breath and collect your thoughts.

3) Don't Turn into Bridezilla- this one is for the ladies, i know how you can get, when something doesn't go as planned. But remain calm and do not throw a tantrum, nobody wants to deal with a crazy and bitchy bride. You cannot control if something doesn't go as planned, just accept it and work around it. Moreover this day is just not about you alone, its also about your husband. Click the link below how this bride to be turns into a bridezilla and ruins her day. After watching this video, i feel sorry for her bridal party and family.

4) Assign Responsibilities- Although you have hired a wedding planner, be sure to assign responsibilities to your close family and friends who can ensure things run smoothly just in case the wedding planner slips up.

5) Script It-Most couples nowadays have stepped away from the traditional vows and prefer writing their own vows. If you're one of those, then here is a little piece of advice. Write down your wedding vows on a piece of paper, and don't try to play hero and remember it. You may feel as though you would look foolish standing in front of the altar reading from a piece of paper, but trust me what would look more foolish and embarrassing is if you cant remember what you wanted to say Moreover for those on your bridal party who have an important part to play ask them to write down their speech as well.

 6) Don't Get Drunk- Its your big day and you want to enjoy your day to the fullest. You want to be the life of the party and celebrate your love with great pomp. But getting drunk is not the solution. By getting drunk not only would you embarrass your self but you may miss some important things on your big day. Your pictures may get ruined and you may say something embarrassing to your guest. And most importantly you would not get to enjoy your wedding night with your spouse because you would be to drunk. So ladies and gents just to be on the safe side don't over consume alcohol on this special day.

7) Make sometime for your spouse- Yes this day is about celebrating your love for each other, you go through so much formalities and rituals that you barely get chance to spend some quality time with your better half. Be sure to make some time for your husband or wife and spend some quality time with them and enjoy the day together.

 

Hope the these little pointers would be of help for those who are getting married and for those who plan on getting married.

Is he/she the one?

10 SIGNS THAT WOULD HELP TELL US IF SHE/HE IS THE ONE

As we grow older, we begin searching for that one person whom we can spend the rest of our lives together with . That one person whom we can call our own and know that they will be there no matter what. But how do we distinguish our future spouse from everyone else? What are the key signs that proves she/he is the one? For many these signs may vary, however following below are ten (10) signs which i believe can help prove she/he is the one..

1)       She/he is Funny - Is your partner able to make you laugh? Does he/she laugh at your silly jokes? If he/she does, this is a good sign. Humor is very important for a healthy and happy marriage. If you're dating someone who lacks a good sense of humor, then they are not the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Your marriage would lack excitement and would become dull and boring. Having someone in your life who can make you laugh is integral for a happy marriage, as they would always be able to make your dull days seem brighter.

2)    She/he motivates you- having someone in your life who can openly show you where you're going wrong and point out the things that are holding you back in your life is great for a healthy marriage. This person would be able to motivate you and help you become a better person, moreover they would always try to better the relationship you share with eachother.

3)       Your life seems better when she/he is around- once that person is around, your day instantly becomes better and everything seems to be okay. Once he/she is around your days become brighter than the sun and you feel you can take on the world.

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4)       She/ he Is Your Best Friend- Have your partner become your best friend? Do you call your girlfriend or boyfriend for every little thing that you do or experience? Do you share every detail of your life with them? If so, you are on your way to a happy and beautiful relationship. Becoming best friends with your love is absolutely the sweetest thing ever. I have met many couples who consider their partner to be their best friend, and honestly they share a beautiful and inseparable relationship.

5)       She/he loves you- Regardless of all your flaws, mistakes and weaknesses she/he still thinks you’re the most amazing person in the world and loves you no matter what.

6)       She/he shows a continuous effort-Your Partner shows a continuous effort to show you they want you in their lives. No matter where you are or where you go, they want to be there holding your hands and supporting you. He/she will do anything or you and drop everything to be with you. If you have someone like this in your lives, they definitely a keeper.

7)       Physical Attraction- This is an integral part of a relationship. If you’re not physically attracted to the person, forget about having a future with that person. However if you can not get your hands of your other half, this is great news.

8)       Trust- trust is important in a relationship without it there is no future.  A relationship built on trust is one we shouldn’t let go off.

9)       Common Values- Sharing common values can create a better and stable marriage and build a beautiful home for your kids.

10)   You are comfortable with that person – being comfortable around the person you love is very important, if you're not comfortable whilst you're dating then you wouldn't be comfortable entering into a marriage. In a relationship your must be able to feel comfortable around the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with.

Unfortunately in life, many of us have to kiss a few frogs before we find the perfect match, but when you do find that person make sure to hold on. Sometimes we are often blessed with such a person but are unable to recognize the love of our lives but don't lose faith. What are the key signs you believe would help you recognize your future spouse?